I’m embarrassed to admit that my hidden habits over the past several years have involved enjoying more wine than I probably should. No, I don’t drink in the morning, it’s not that bad. But I have sometimes used the “it’s 5 o’clock somewhere” excuse. I have also dabbled with ciggies here and there over the past few years, during high stress times. They stink and are gross, but they do settle the nerves sometimes. (If my mom or in-laws are reading this, sorry you had to find out this way–and yes, I know they are super bad for me!)
Positive note – I have never done drugs and never will. Okay, except for that one time when I was 15 years old and decided to try a joint (that was secretly laced with PCP) my winner boyfriend’s mother and I…had a mild heart attack. Although, is there such a thing as a mild heart attack? Isn’t that like being a little pregnant? Good job handling that peer pressure, Starr. Then again, it did set me on a permanent anti-drug path, so at least something good did come out of that horrible experience.
Fast-forward to several years ago- At some point over the past few years, I picked up habits that I never in my wildest nightmares would have considered years ago. I have always been somewhat health focused–consistently focused on a positive mindset and personal growth, exercising enough to stay in shape. I’ve even been a vegetarian most of my life. Not for any animal rights specific reasons, although I am a total animal lover, but more because of textures. My mom tells a story often about when I was just starting to spoon feed. Apparently, I grabbed a bowl of hot salsa while my parents were talking, scarfed it down until I could see my reflection in the bowl, and then refused my mother’s pleadings to drink milk or water shortly thereafter. I was also known to sit in my highchair and chew my meat, only to spit it out as if our kitchen was filled with spittoons and I had been chewing on tobacco. That was a fun game for my mom, picking up Starr’s gnarled meat scraps from the floor before someone step on them and fell on their back.
Awwww, childhood memories.
So, the meat hating thing, I guess I was born with it. Side note- if a nice juicy steak lands on my plate once or twice a year, I won’t push it away, because, well that would be crazy. So, at this stage, I self-categorize as a Flexitarian.
A year ago I went vegan after watching the mind blowing movie Game Changer. I felt absolutely fantastic. I realized very quickly that cheese was the reason I suffered from allergies for years, which sucked because I love cheese. (Of all things, why cheese?) Basically what I am saying is that I have always eaten pretty healthily. Not much junk food, not much sugar, either.
THAT IS until a few years ago.
Hello, Doritos and ding-dongs! What a rush! What the hell happened?! My taste buds changed and I started craving things that I would never even allow in my home, let alone in my body. I would binge eat an entire package of Oreos—well, those are vegan so they don’t count.
Even though I was vegan and feeling so much better, I was still living the “I don’t want to exercise and I’ll eat what I want” lifestyle. But now I find myself about to be a grandma. I don’t take this lightly because I want to be around to be with my grandkids, and hopefully one day my great-grandkids. (Did I mention that I plan on living to 99 years of age?) Clearly, I soon realized, I had better start a 12-step junk food detox program STAT.
I have been researching hormones over the past year or so (thanks peri-fricken-menopause!) and it is one confusing topic to navigate. I really wanted more natural approaches, but the few things I have tried just haven’t worked. My skin has decided to protest my bad decision-making over the past few years by giving me worse acne now then I had in high school. So here I sit taking a deep and serious look at my health, habits, and overall mental health. (BTW: take it from me. Don’t try to medicate away your bad decision-making for quick results. I tried it with phentermine to lose weight. It works, but many don’t realize that it is “Speed” and is not a long-term solution. Stay away from that and other quick fixes.) I decided it is time to create better lifestyle habits. I am only in the beginning stage of this, but here are a few things that have worked so far.
- I love liquid collagen. I have done a ton of research on powdered vs. liquid and I’m convinced that this liquid stuff works. My favorite, and so far the most effective, is a product from Modere called LIFE. It’s an MLM company. I initially signed up to be a rep because I really loved the product, but then I decided to cancel because I detest network marketing. I tried to fall in love with it, even wanted to change the game because I am a Publicist and storytelling marketer. I wanted to take the cheesy sales out of it all. But even for a challenge-junkie like me, it just isn’t a mountain that I wanted to climb and conquer. Anyhow, I am starting to see a difference with my skin. Go find yourself a Modere rep and try this stuff out!
- Getting to Know Water- why is water so blah? I know our bodies need it, and I know I feel better when I drink a ton of it. But seriously, water–Get a personality! I have tried so many sparkling waters, flavored waters, and realized that the chemicals in some of them are no Bueno. I landed on fresh-squeezed lemon in a mason jar. The ones with the lids. I pre-make them so that I can just grab and go…or stay since we are still mostly in quarantine. My glamma friend Jennifer, aka Aba, says that you know you are drinking enough water if you constantly have to pee. WHAT?! I have more important things to do than urinate all day. Admittedly, it really helps to take the opportunity while peeing 18 times an hour to transition into affirmations, thoughts, creative thinking etc… I have more energy and I am working up to the energy level when I no longer have to walk past my $3,000 Peloton bike and curse at it. I’ll get there. Thanks water.
- Touch Meditation- Okay, this sounds weird but stay with me here. I started meditating a year or so ago, it changed my life. I fought it, and I still do sometimes, but it completely changed my stress level and leaves me feeling good and balanced for the entire day after I do a 5-20 minute meditation. I will alternate from guided meditations and breathing ones. (Here are a few of my faves- Breathing meditation- 20 minutes, 10 minute mindset visualization, 20 minute abundance, visit a flower field meditation, and last but not least Cain Carroll- as an FYI, Cain was the very first boy to ask me to our Jr. High School dance, he was always so kind in my childhood, I was not surprised to see that he became a yogi meditation master guru badass). One morning I didn’t feel like doing either so I just turned some super “woo-woo” spa music on compliments of Amazon Music and I just closed my eyes to breathe. I realized that my neck was super tense and tight so I just started to press on it. For the next 10 minutes, I felt like I was self-healing. When I was done my neck was loose and I was in shock. I didn’t even know this existed; yet, when I searched online, I found a ton of great videos and blog posts about it. There are some weird ones, try to avoid those, unless you want some laughs like I did. Then by all means proceed. Try this type of meditation, even just once, I dare you.
So there it is, the beginning of my journey to health, mindfulness, and being a super active Lolli Glamma (aka grandma).
PS- Just in case you don’t know any or have a rep, I added a few links in this blog that point to a rep for Modere (liquid collagen) and Doterra (for lemon essential oil to add to your water). I do NOT make any moola on or from those links. It’s my auntie, she would benefit, should you choose to buy from her. 🙂