Whose idea was it to design underwear anyway? And why has it become this social rule that we have to wear it?
If there is one thing I hate, it’s feeling confined. I don’t like my calendar too tight, my demands too tight, or my clothes too tight…so why would I like underwear?
There’s a lot to be said for how much better we handle situations when we are relaxed and comfortable. Hard lessons are so much easier to accept and challenges are so much more enjoyable to face when we feel at ease. I’m a big believer that how we feel physically impacts how we feel emotionally.
If I’m wearing tight clothes, tight shoes, or trapped in a crowded space, I feel constricted. This feeling impacts the way I communicate. I’m less likely to observe what is happening around me and with others. I have less patience and that prevents me from collaborating and from taking the extra time to listen. I also have a more difficult time accessing my creative side and feeling playful. As much as I try to be present, my mind keeps bringing me back to how uncomfortable I feel.
Really, Aba? Underwear?
Yeah, I know this sounds “so deep” and that we’re only talking about underwear! But it relates.
As I grow older I am learning more, and caring more, about what I like–and dislike. And underwear I dislike. So I’m taking a stand and letting them go. No more indentations on my lovely hips or watching it cut over my belly. No more wedgies when they aren’t the perfect fit. Now that we are experiencing COVID and I’m pretty close to living like I’m on house arrest, I have been enjoying a “few” extra snacks. I’ve learned that food is absolutely my guilty pleasure . . . and you can throw in an early cocktail also. And for those of you who are concerned about the health and hygiene of going commando, I’ve done my research and there is no downside to ditching them. In fact, there are actually a good number of upsides to it, including feeling better and sexier.
It’s not for you? Okay. No judgment here. But I have been able to persuade a few thrill seeking friends—Lolli being one of them. Her first thoughts were “NEVER could I do that” and “You are crazy”. Now she’s dancing, prancing, and enjoying it. She’s in—and it did not take a lot of convincing.
Hey there, Lolli here- sorry for the interruption but YES, I totally had to try it when you told me because I thought the idea was so damn crazy! I also thought- wait, Aba, doesn’t wear underwear?! She is always so professionally presented and so classy, a classy suit wearing woman like you…I had to find out for myself and… I couldn’t believe how much I absolutely love it! Okay, sorry for the interruption. Back to Aba…
Just watch a baby run free when a diaper is removed. It is like a jail break as the baby sprints across the room with a giant smile across their face. Well, that’s me (us)—minus the streaking across the room with a giant smile. We can totally relate. There is something about it that just makes life seem a little easier and helps me to feel a little more carefree.
But please don’t take this wrong. I dress appropriately for professional occasions. I’m simply saying that the new norm is a home office and lots of sitting. It’s not very adventurous and it is even less sexy. So if that’s what the next year has planned for us, I’ll embrace anything that brings me a little extra comfort and joy. Even if it is just my little secret.
What about bras you ask? I’m going to shoot that question on over to Lolli…